The parents using play to stop children getting ‘trapped’ by screens
The parents using play to stop children getting ‘trapped’ by screens
The UK government has issued updated recommendations, limiting daily screen exposure for children under five to one hour, and advising that toddlers under two avoid screens altogether. These guidelines propose “screen swaps”—replacing screen time with activities like storytelling or interactive games. Yet, implementing such changes remains a challenge for many families, as modern life is dominated by time constraints and the lure of technology.
Errol Murray, the founder of Leeds Dads, has made reconnection with children a personal focus. Each Saturday, he joins his son Isaac and other local fathers in exploring new activities, from nature walks to soft play sessions that include free breakfasts. “When you give them a short warning to leave the screens, they still react with frustration,” Errol explains. “You need something compelling enough to draw them away from phones, tablets, and TVs, because they can get stuck there.”
From screens to shared experiences
The father-son pair particularly enjoy park walks, where Isaac can bring his remote-control car along. “Engaging in activities with your kids instead of leaving them to their own devices helps build a meaningful connection,” Errol notes. As the Leeds Dads group expands, parents increasingly struggle to balance tech use with quality time, highlighting a broader issue in family routines.
New research from the National Literacy Trust reveals a 25% decline in daily playtime between parents and children since 2019. Experts emphasize that these interactions are not just emotional but also biological, shaping neural development. A study led by Dr Samuel Forbes and Prof John Spencer tracked over 6,000 hours of language exposure in 163 toddlers, focusing on the quality of in-person conversation rather than passive screen-based listening.
Using recording devices, the researchers analyzed the children’s neural activity through MRI scans, measuring myelin levels that support efficient brain signaling. The findings showed that those engaged in richer interactions developed stronger myelination, enabling faster and more effective language processing. “The words children hear during early years literally shape their brain,” Forbes states. “Every interaction matters, and it’s never too late to start.”
Barriers to limiting screen time
Kirsty MacDonald, head of early years at the National Literacy Trust, points out that financial strain and limited access to local activities often hinder parents’ ability to reduce screen use. “Families in poverty may lack the support, tools, and resources to nurture language and communication effectively,” she says. Work schedules and the cost of entertainment further complicate efforts to create tech-free moments.
Despite these obstacles, some parents find ways to integrate screens into meaningful experiences. Sam, a member of Leeds Dads, shares that his family uses technology creatively. He now plays music on his tablet with his children, aged five and six, using a digital synthesizer. “Before becoming a dad, I had trouble finding time for myself,” Sam recalls. “Now, it’s a joy to share this hobby with them.”
While introducing new activities isn’t always simple, especially after long days, Sam acknowledges the value of screen time when used purposefully. “Sometimes, watching TV together is the best option when everyone is exhausted,” he admits. Yet, he remains hopeful about the potential for tech to foster connection when guided thoughtfully.
